Whether we are working beyond the house or within the home, it is becoming more and more difficult in the age of”instant communication” to shoot some TIME OUT for family. We’ve got the cell phone, Instant Messaging, Blackberry, and the list goes on we could be reached. And in every one of these moments our attention is diverted from whatever we had been doing to give our attention to this”new” pressing dilemma
Let’s face it; most of us choose Family Time for granted. If you are working outside of the home, it isn’t hard to let those precious few day hours be consumed with telephone calls, returning email, putting”final touches” on work related items, etc.. If you’re working at the home the distractions are comparable; telephone calls, volunteerism, housework, etc.. The point is that working parents (both inside & outside the house ) are allowing outside influences take precedence over Family Time.
Would we let having to stay another hour on the job in order to send the revenue figures for the 1st quarter have priority over our kid’s ballet recital to the CEO? Would we permit getting the last load of clothes laundered take precedence over singing”The Wheels on the Bus” (for the 100th time) along with your toddler? Every one of these things is significant and depending upon our value system at the time one or more one of these activities might or might not make it. If you”schedule” the time, you could have the ability to secure more”Family Time” than you thought
SCHEDULE IT! – everybody has of recalling all of the things which have to get done at 18, some system. When it’s a Day-Timer, a Blackberry you have a way to keep track of the myriad of activities on your family. Friday night from 6:30pm until the kids’ bedtime is Family Time. Most of us have to do an activity. Each child gets an opportunity to choose what he/she would love to do for our Family Night and EVERYONE has to do it. This is a superb way to get everyone together and you’ll be able to find times in the midst of your time with each other to have to know what is currently happening in your child’s world in a setting that is relaxed. Some of their activities at our house; Uno, bowling, Scrabble tournaments, the arcade, music concerts, and movies.
COMMIT TO IT! – it isn’t hard to let phone calls, email, internet surfing, etc. to take your focus off. Don’t let it! Turn the cell phone off, turn off the computer, turn the Blackberry off and truly provide all of your attention to a family for your Family Time. Don’t let anything intrude in your time and your children are going to see just how much Family Time matters for youpersonally, how much they matter to you. .
ENJOY IT! – If you are not used to scheduling a cube of Family Time, the prospect of spending a block of time might seem a little. In order to ease into a comfortable time with your family, you might first wish to schedule”activities” that take you out of the house. There is an opportunity to bond through the action, but if there is a lull in communication it’ll be OK because you can focus on the activity.